Anonymous asked: I am fourteen. I am a lesbian. A lot of people believe that I can't be positive I am a lesbian at fourteen. When, actually, I have know since I was 10. I want to dress androgynous, but also I want to wear dresses occasionally? I am terrified to confront my mom about it. All of my family knows, but I am still scared to admit how I want to dress. Can I dress both ways? I am really impatient so if you have time please reply soon I know you are really busy I just, freak out. Thanks.

A.D. says: You can do whatever you want, including wearing dresses and dressing androgynously. Do not let anyone make you feel like you have to choose one way of dressing or being over another. Do not let anyone make you feel less because you are a lesbian, or because you want to wear dresses and ties and leather jackets and ties and make-up. YOU DO YOU. (Thanks, Autostraddle for the best slogan ever.)

I’m not saying that if “you do you” life will be easier. In fact, life will be challenging in ways that gender conforming folks don’t have to deal with. But it will be honest. You will discover your strength and your phenomenal self and I think that’s incredibly rewarding.

(Just look at A.D. I’m really glad they exist in all their hotness and gender non-conforming celebration. — Sonia)

These people are helpful and friendly!
Everyone is Gay: (you probably already read them… but just in case! Amazingness!)
http://everyoneisgay.com/resources.html Click your city!
PLAG: (This is a group that your family could go to if they want to learn more about your identity and how to support you. Or if they just want to meet other families of queers.)
It Gets Better: (kids make videos about their experiences. You could make one too!)
GLBT National Youth Talkline, 1-800-246-PRIDE Mon-Fri 8pm - midnight EST, 5pm - 9pm PST (in case ya need to talk)

Related posts: Qweary about dressing across the gender spectrum