I Dream Of Dapper (In The Library)
(photo credit: Boogie)
(photo credit: Boogie)
A Bicycle Built For Two is one of my new of my new favorite sources for queer formal wear inspiration! A beautiful display of carefully picked lesbian and queer wedding photos. I was scrolling the other day and found this dashing couple, AnnMarie & Anne:
Obvi I had to get in touch with them and ask them about their outfits.
AnnMarie (suit, bow tie) told me, “I knew what I wanted to look like on my wedding day from the time I was little. I am obsessed with English styled suiting from the mid century. I am also equally obsessed with classic menswear. I wanted my look to be dapper and polished and really show my personality. I was born a 67 year old man and I really wanted that to show through.” She wound up with this amazing vintage, bespoke suit made in 1967, from the Etsy shop, Brightwall, and then she got it tailored.
Anne told me that she prefers simple dresses, and had surprising luck at David’s Bridal! ”I wanted a dress, but I hate shiny fabric, beads, sparkles… Basically most wedding gowns. They just aren’t me. I wanted simple and clean. I found a lot of beautiful vintage dresses that were all too teeny tiny, so against my instincts, we checked out David’s Bridal. And we found the dress! It’s shantung, which is more matte, and structured (learn something new every day). And it has pockets!! Overall I wanted to feel like myself, and for me that means simple and classic, but with fun details.”
Suit: Etsy shop, Brightwall + tailoring
Tie and Pocket Square: Custom made through Etsy shop Divinedomestication.
Vest, Suspenders and Socks: Men’s Wearhouse + tailoring
Shirt: Blank Label
Shoes: Calvin Klein Men’s Felix Oxford, bought on Amazon.
Hat: Sugarcube in Philly
Anonymous asked: I recently came out of the closet. For years I tried being more girly because thats what everyone was expecting from me but I was never comfortable that way. Now that I’m out and I’m dating a wonderful girl I want to push away all the girlyness I have. I’m not sure how I can do that without winning the lottery and buying a whole new wardrobe. Any advice?
I was once in a very similar spot. A few months into my new-found identity, I did some cleansing and removed every item from my closet that I knew I’d never wear again (goodbye, Bat Mitzvah dress!) I was left with about 5 items of clothing and 2 huge bags to give away. I gave many things to my femme friends, and still need to donate the rest.
There are probably masculine presenting people and transfeminine folks in your area who would want to get rid of old clothes that might fit you! If you are new to the community and interested in making some new friendsicles, you can look for a queer listserve in your city (in Boston it’s The List) and put out a notice that you’re looking to do a clothing swap!
You obviously can’t get a whole new wardrobe in one day, but you can start off with some basics. Like, a pair of multi-purpose pants that you feel absolutely spectacular in and can wear 4 times a week.
Basic khakis like these can be worn both at work with a button-up and blazer, or at home with a T-shirt. Gap Lived In Slim Khaki, $59.95 (25% off with code GAP25)
Go to your local thrift stores and just try everything on (We’ve got some expert thrifter advice coming later this month!) I highly recommend buying your mens or boys’ button-ups at thrift stores and getting them tailored if necessary. Find ones that fit in the shoulders, chest, and sleeves, and then adjust the length and width at a tailor (making it clear that you want it to remain a men’s shirt.) I know it seems like a lot of work to put into a thrifted shirt; but I swear it’s the best way to get a well-fitted shirt for cheap!
One pair of oxfords should keep you afloat for now in terms of nicer footwear! You may get lucky and find some vintage men’s shoes in a thrift store that fit you. Otherwise, something these Madden Girl Women Jacobz Oxfords at Amazon for $31.77 would go well with those Khakis.
Put together at least one casual outfit and one outfit that is more formal. Accessories will go far when you’re trying to stretch your wardrobe. A few pairs of ties in different styles can change the look of the same outfit. Play with tucking in, untucking, and top button-swag, to give your limited apparel a different look.
Congrats on your newly discovered identity, and have fun!
I’ve been doing this thing lately where my friends ask me to keep an eye out for boots for them. And then I’ve been doing this thing where I get obsessed with all the boots and need to make another boot post. If you missed part 1 or care for a refresher, clickster. (I know we can’t all afford some of these, ever. But I’m going to show you anyway because I’m a jerk.)
Kenneth Cole First Song Lace-Up Ankle Boot, Black, available at Lastcall.com for $149.00
Dunderon x Timberland collaboration - boot black suede, available at streetcasuals.com for $240
Carter Formal Lace Up Boots, available at Mr. Shoes for $87.70
English Brogue Boot, available at Orvis for $375
Frye Veronica Combat boots, available at Amazon.com for $167.99
Hunter Brixen Rain Boos, available at Piperlime for $109.50. I just got these and I never want it to not rain again.
These are so slick. To say that I want them on my feet now is an understatement. Cavalière Mat by Be Only, available at Sarenza for $96.49
Thinking of getting these for winter. Men’s Earthkeepers® Rugged 6-Inch WP Plain Toe Boot, available at Timberland for $242
For Missy. Bandolino Clotida Riding Boot, available at DSW for $99.95
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Lately I’ve been really inspired by the British schoolgirl look. It’s such a great style and so fun to reclaim as a queer. Here are some items I love that can help incorporate the style into your wardrobe.
Love Moschino Hat, available at Yoox for £50.00
Vintage Set My Heart A-Blazer, available at Modcloth for $29.99
Cambridge Cable Crewneck Sweater, available at J. Crew for $88
Velvet Bow Neck Tie, available at ASOS for $13.80
Upwardly Mobile Satchel in Yellow, available at Modcloth for $134
Seen in Style Top in Ivory, available at Modcloth for $39.99
Vince High Waisted Shorts, on sale at FarFetch for $114
Urban Knit Knee High Socks, available at Topshop for $26
Bass Women’s Ely Oxford, available at Amazon for $54.95
We’ve been getting so many questions about men’s Tanks; where to get them; how to deal with large armholes; what to do if people are making fun of you for being a virgin (wait… that’s not about fashion. Why is it in my inbox?)
Ashley rocking the tank undershirt (link)
Yes, men don’t mind exposing their boobs, so most of their tanks have larger armholes. The solution: Hanes or Fruit of the Loom undershirts. Available on Amazon. Boy’s tanks however, tend not to have large armholes… I don’t know why. So I like to wear them.
Here are some of my favorite tanks to help get you beat the heat:
AMBSN Clothing Popsicle Tank Top, available at Trucker Deluxe for $39.99
Company 81 Men’s Stripe Tank Top, available at Amazon for $24
Topman has a ton of tanks tops for all the small queers. Their smallest size XXS is even too small for me. Yellow Winner Vest, available at Topman for $32.
Tank with Wide Fluro Stripe, available at ASOS for $19.88. (Free shipping both ways in the US + 10% off. Code: 10SALE)
Fly Society Stewardess Tank, available at PacSun for $24. (10% off $100 plus free shipping. Coupon code: PACSUN10)
Fine Jersey Unisex Tank Top, available at American Apparel for $17
Obey Font Heather Yellow Tank Top, available at Zumiez for $29.95
Oh, and tell your friends that “virgin” is a heterosexist concept and it’s your body and you do what you want.
Sometimes I wonder if the cute queers are ever going to run out, and then I remember… THERE IS AN ENDLESS SUPPLY. Today Kerri shows us her outfit of basics.
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Thanks Mad Men for totally bringing this style back. This slick cutie speaks of her haircut: “Hair is a whole different wardrobe to me! This is inspired by the best era, the 1950’s. Best product I use is the Bed Head Manipulator. It doesnt make your hair hard but it keeps it in place.” Even her photo is faded 50’s style. Love.
Available on Amazon for $12.99
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I’ve discovered many more amazing watches since the last watch post, so here we go, this time with the added benefit of your being able to afford them.
Breda Colton Watch, on sale at jackthreads.com for $27.99
Nixon Newton Digital Green/Blue/Navy Watch available at Watchismo.com for $99
Watch with Double Dial and Black Leather Strap, available at ASOS for $52.19
Croton Automatic Diver Mens Watch Blue Dial, on sale at Amazon for $59.95
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