(photo credit: Boogie)

Blazer: Burlington Coat Factory
Floral shirt: Target
Paisley tie: Goodwill
Waistcoat: H&M
Jeans: Express
Shoes: Goodwill (Outdoorables by Daniel Green)

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Bow Tie: Amazon (Susan G Komen)
Grey blazer: Goodwill (no lable)
Sweater: Kohl’s (Lauren Conrad)
Striped Shirt: Express

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This H&M’s women’s blazer had been in the back of my closet for a while because I felt it was too feminine. But it was actually seeing Esther Quek’s neatly tailored women’s suits that encouraged me to try it again. Now I like the fit, and feel that it matches my androgynous presentation perfectly.

The Hunter Boots are Qwear virgins; got them at the Tannery in Harvard Square for $50 and am always waiting for rainy days like to today to sport them.

Blazer: H&M
Shirt: Ralph Lauren Boys’ Blake Oxford, tailored
Belt: Express (men’s)
Pants: Gap Broken-in Straight Khakis (also womens!)
Boots: Hunter Women’s Brixen Combat Boots, bought at the Tannery

I decided to go tieless today because if I wore ties all the time then A. I’d have trouble distinguishing between dressier and more casual occasions and B. I’d never get to show off top button swag (and in the colder weather, my mad ironing skills.)

Finally, my new haircut! Based it off of Logan Lerman in his holiday sweater and wanted to copy his adorable geeky style, but had also found inspiration from queers I’ve seen around town. I did it at a La Flemme Barber Shop in Lexington, MA; an affordable old school barber shop across from where I work that did a fantastic job. 

Sending warm thoughts from Boston,

Sonia

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Sunglasses: Ray-ban Wayfarers
Cardigan: Tommy Hilfiger
Shirt: American Eagle
Tie: Express
Jeans: American Eagle
Shoes: Converse

that-lovable-ginger asked: Hi there! I've only just really begun to understand that I'm genderqueer, and as a result I've started realising that sometimes I love the idea of dressing masculine. The problem is, I don't own any masculine clothing and don't really know where to begin! My other problem is that I have long hair, which means that I find it difficult to have a masculine appearance (I'm a bit tentative about the idea of cutting my hair short though, because it's such a big change). Please help? :)

Congratulations! Check out A.D.’s blog. They are genderqueer too, and have amazing long hair: exsouthernbelle.tumblr.com. Also check out this post they wrote: Queer with Long Hair.

It can be hard diving into a whole new wardrobe. Are you interested in incorporating masculine pieces into your current wardrobe? If so, you may enjoy this post: Mixing Mens and Womens Pieces. If I was going to buy my very first masculine clothing item, it would probably be a basic button-up. Finding my first men’s button-up that fit really well was an amazing feeling.

I also did just a lot of trying things on and exploring what felt right. I found that the best places to do this are where people aren’t gender policing the customers. So you can comfortably explore and try on many things without feeling like people are watching you. I felt really comfortable in department stores that were either crowded enough that people didn’t notice me, or where sales people weren’t lurking around. It was also easy to bounce back and forth between the mens and boys’ sections. Stores with all gender dressing rooms are also great places to trying on men’s clothing. Dapper Q made a list of stores that have them: Abercombie & Fitch, American Eagle Outfitters, American Apparel, Banana Republic, Express, Gap, H&M, Hollister Co., Old Navy, Uniqlo. (From Dressing Rooms: Legal, Physical, & Emotional.) I’d also like to add that some J. Crews and Club Monacos have them.

Good luck and have fun!

Anonymous asked: Hi! I've just moved to Boston and was wondering if you (or anyone else) might know where I can find cheap boyish clothes to buy. I'm pretty short and a pear shape so I don't know where to even start looking (not to mention how expensive Boston is!). Also, I'm looking for vests in particular. Your blog is really amazing and has already helped me figure out my style! I can't wait to buy the clothes and actually look "dapper"! Haha! Thank you! =)

Welcome! Boston actually has a lot of amazing finds if you know where to go. Buffalo Exchange, Goodwill, and Boomerangs are my favorite thrift stores. I’ve gotten so many great things at Goodwill…. beautiful boys’ shirts for 5$ each. Goodwill will have vests too. Department stores are my next haven for cheap clothes. Macy’s, Lord & Taylor, Marshalls, Filenes, etc. They have several locations, but you can hit a lot of good ones at Downtown Crossing and Boylston St. And if you are looking for boy clothes, the H&M at Downtown Crossing has a kids section with some amazing stuff for really cheap (and the added benefit of all-gender dressing room.) I also love the CambridgeSide Galleria. My favorite affordable stores there are Old Navy, Macy’s, American Eagle, Express, and Gap. If you catch the sales at Express and Gap you can get amazing finds.

As you can see, I’ve done a lot of shopping here. Any other Boston favorites?

Anonymous asked: Hey Sonia/staff! 23 going on 40 … and my life has reached a point where I want to start dressing more “professional” on the daily. It has taken me years find my wonderful androgynous niche — my clothes are fly and I feel good in them! But, the majority of my wardrobe is casual wear. I am going for a dapper-sheik look (somewhere in a happy gender medium) to match my sexy new leather briefcase. Any suggestions? Thanks!

If your briefcase is black:

Newton 2 Casual Fit Shirt, available at Reiss for $75

Black Slim Leather Belt, available at Topman for $24

Off-white Skinny Chinos, available at Topman for $50

Argyle Dress Socks, available at Express for $10.90

FRYE Women’s James Oxford, on sale at Amazon for $93.61

I found this boy’s shirt in the men’s section of Goodwill for $5 and it’s really nice, like new, and fits astoundingly well! I don’t think I will have to do any alterations, but I may cut slits on the sides so the bottom fits over my hips better. Perfect for leaving the last button undone and tucking in.

I’m modeling it in an example for summer office-wear, since a lot of you have been asking about that! It would also go great with pocket square or vest.

Shirt: Arrow boys, bought at Goodwill
Tie: Brooks Brothers, borrowed from my dad
Watch: 666 Barcelona
Belt: Express (men’s)
Shorts: Old Navy “Women’s Perfect Khaki Bermudas”
Shoes: Bass ”Ely Gobi Suede”

And where might I end up tonight? At a club? On a dinner date? At a vegan potluck that is unbeknownst to me a meeting for members of a cooperative farm? This outfit can be swung at any occasion. Happy Friday!

Shirt: H&M Boys, tailored (cost $38 total)
Tie: Express
Watch: 666 Barcelona
Jeans: Abercrombie & Fitch, “The Erin Skinny”
Socks: Urban Outfitters
Shoes: Adidas