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19

May

Springtime Mini Lapel Boutoneirres

I need to talk about my new dandy obsession: mini lapel pins. These are most commonly seen at weddings on groomsmen and the like, but I plan on taking after Lover Of Stories and wearing them all the time. Where you have a lapel, you can have a lapel pin.

Mini Lapel Boutoneirres
(from: loverofstories.tumblr.com)

Mini Lapel Boutoneirres
(from: unclebeebo.tumblr.com)

Mini Lapel Boutoneirres
(from: fineanddandyshopblog.com)

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(from: www.etsy.com)

Mini Lapel Boutoneirres
(from: www.etsy.com)

Places to pick them up: 

Hello Oliver on Etsy
The Love Stitch on Etsy

Mini Lapel Boutoneirres

You can also get some some stud earrings like these Colorful Rose Flower Stud Earrings Set and put them in your jacket insteaddd. I’ve never actually tried this. Have you?

- Sonny

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13

Mar

Transitioning Into Spring with Blake

It was so gorgeous in Boston today!! 50 degrees, no clouds in the sky So since it’s like basically HOT OUT, I asked Blake to share with us how she transitions into a spring wardrobe. Hope some of you find this useful when getting together yer outfits! - Sonia

By Blake

You don’t need to start from scratch when the seasons get warmer! For spring I only make two significant changes to what I wear:

  • Lighter fabrics— so no wool, flannel, tweed, etc.
  • Lighter colors— (I’m in love with pastels just like every other student at UVA, sorry not sorry)

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I still wear jeans (vans and cuffed jeans= classic) and collared shirts in the summertime (usually not at the same time) depending on how hot it is.
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The weather in Virginia can be pretty temperamental (Buah hah!); 70 degrees one day and 50 the next. However, the outer layer goes away-sweaters, cardigans, and heavy jackets. To replace a big coat, I’m in love with the windbreakers/ parkas I’ve seen around for when it gets chilly.  

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(from rawthentix.com)

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(from thirdlooks.com) 

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Zanerobe Bay Short Sleeve Shirt, $99 at needsupply.com

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Gitman Vintage Pinup Oxford Shirt (from meadowweb.com)

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In addition, I love incorporating a busy pattern into my spring outfit. Because it is often too hot to wear a sweater or cardigan, patterns can add another layer of complexity and flare. I’m talking polka dots (and top button swag), florals (“florals for spring…groundbreaking”), zig zags, pin-up girl patterns; go crazy. When done right, patterns show that you put some thought into your outfit.

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Timex weekender watches $35 at Amazon

I roll my sleeves up most of the time during the spring. Great opportunity to accessorize with some bracelets and a watch. You can find more affordable bracelets from ALDO or Etsyimage

Sperry Top-Sider Authentic Originals Mens Boat Shoes

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(source unknown)

I also wear lighter colored shoes in lighter fabrics-usually low tops. So Sperry’sVans, etc. Happy spring dressing!

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28

Dec

AnnMarie and Anne’s Dashing Wedding Attire

A Bicycle Built For Two is one of my new of my new favorite sources for queer formal wear inspiration! A beautiful display of carefully picked lesbian and queer wedding photos. I was scrolling the other day and found this dashing couple, AnnMarie & Anne:

lesbian wedding outfit

Obvi I had to get in touch with them and ask them about their outfits.

AnnMarie (suit, bow tie) told me, “I knew what I wanted to look like on my wedding day from the time I was little. I am obsessed with English styled suiting from the mid century. I am also equally obsessed with classic menswear. I wanted my look to be dapper and polished and really show my personality. I was born a 67 year old man and I really wanted that to show through.” She wound up with this amazing vintage, bespoke suit made in 1967, from the Etsy shop, Brightwall, and then she got it tailored. 

Anne told me that she prefers simple dresses, and had surprising luck at David’s Bridal! ”I wanted a dress, but I hate shiny fabric, beads, sparkles… Basically most wedding gowns. They just aren’t me. I wanted simple and clean. I found a lot of beautiful vintage dresses that were all too teeny tiny, so against my instincts, we checked out David’s Bridal. And we found the dress! It’s shantung, which is more matte, and structured (learn something new every day). And it has pockets!! Overall I wanted to feel like myself, and for me that means simple and classic, but with fun details.”

lesbian wedding outfit

lesbian wedding outfit

lesbian wedding outfit

lesbian wedding outfit

lesbian wedding outfit

AnnMarie:
Suit: Etsy shop, Brightwall + tailoring
Tie and Pocket Square: Custom made through Etsy shop Divinedomestication.
Vest, Suspenders and Socks: Men’s Wearhouse + tailoring
Shirt: Blank Label
Shoes: Calvin Klein Men’s Felix Oxford, bought on Amazon. 
Hat: Sugarcube in Philly

Anne:
Dress: David’s Bridal
Shoes: Etsy shop, Walkinonair
Hair comb: Anastasia’s Antiques in Philadelphia
Pearls: AnnMarie’s grandmother’s
Watch: Anne’s grandmother’s

(Photography by Philadelphia Wedding Photographer, Mike Allebach of Allebach Photography)

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14

Dec

The Art of Thrifting: Items To Look Out For (Part 2 of 2)

By Guest Blogger, Sarah B.

On Tuesday I covered my pre-thrift guidelines that will help prepare you for a successful thrift outing. As I actually thrift the majority of my wardrobe, I’ve discovered which items are reliable finds. It can be easy to feel frustrated about fit in a thrift store, because there is no universal sizing! (I know, you’re thinking… “Is there ever?!”) Sizing in thrift stores is perhaps more complicated because the clothes come from different decades, and sizes have changed over time. But don’t fear! The items I’ve listed below tend to be better stocked (in a variety of sizes/colors/patterns), more withstanding to previous long-term wear, and most likely to look good on a variety of body types.

Pencil Skirts

Usually stocked in tons of colors/sizes. They’ve been a thing throughout the decades so they’re always well stocked (and often have POCKETS). Look for 100% wool. 

pencil skirt queer style
My friend S, rocking out on my back stairs. Complete with recycling and pumpkins.

Velvet Pencil Skirt: $2.00 at Village Discount Outlet (Chicago, IL) 
White button down: $1.00 at a yard sale (Oberlin, OH)
Floral/Paisley Scarf: my mother’s 1970s stock of wonder.
Boots: airstreamapparel Etsy shop
Peacoat: Gap (her own; “on sale!” she says)

Short-sleeved Button Downs
Long sleeved shirts are so great, but they’re maybe my least favorite articles of clothing to shop for. If you don’t have the right shoulder/sleeve fit… they can look sloppy. Also they lose their primness after a few years. Most of the thrifty long-sleeved button-ups you’ll find are fairly worn. However! Most thrift stores have short-sleeved button-ups a-plenty. Fewer folks wear them. They’re better stocked. And more likely to fit you. 

short sleeve button-ups queer style
My friend Sara

Multi-Colored Button-Up: $4.50 at Goodwill (Cambridge, MA) 

Oversized Sweaters
Need I say more? They’re meant to be cozy, baggy, and just a little goofy. Keep an eye out for cashmere, chunky knits, and handmade products. A particularly good present for a cuddler. 

oversized sweaters queer style
Sara again, doped out on Starbursts.

Hunter Green Sweater: $3.80 at Village Discount Outlet (Chicago, IL)
Short-Sleeved Button Down: $2.00 Village Discount Outlet (Chicago, IL)
Collar Buttons (actually decorated bobby pins): Modcloth, Gift.

Overalls

Most commercial stores don’t sell overalls anymore. So if you want a pair, thrift stores are your friend. Also. If you’re somewhat small in stature (like me) try looking in the teens/kid’s section (even if you have a donk)… it’s cheaper and often carries cool patterns.

overalls queer style
(from bluecollarcatwalk.com, modebaroque.blogspot.com, and urbanbushbabies.com)

Can overalls get any more chic? …I didn’t buy these! But! Unique Thrift in Cleveland has an entire section devoted to overalls… all under $6.00!

Vests

These buddies will last forever and ever. And they generally look better with age. Tip: if it has a clasp in the back, make sure the clasp actually works! Great for layering.

vests queer style
My friend S looking like a hot, queer, female Marlon Brando.

White Shirt: My 16-year-old brother’s closet.
Knit Vest: $1.50 at Unique (Chicago, IL)
Green Flannel: $0.50 at a yard sale (Oberlin, OH)
Jeans: $10.00 at Goodwill (New York, NY) (her own; woaaahhh good find!)
Boots: $12.00 at Goodwill (New York, NY)

Boots

Smaller consignment shops might have a limited selection, but large thrift stores will usually have a variety of lace-ups, rainproof, knee-high, and hiking boots. Make sure the heels are sturdy and in tact/that there are no holes in the bottom of the shoe. Don’t be deterred by ugly or scraggly laces. That’s such an easy fix.

mmmm. I love boots!

 boots queer style
Dark Brown Boots: $12.00 at Goodwill (New York, NY)
Black Boots: $2.50 at Junior League Thrift House (Evanston, IL)
Tan Boots: $5.00 at Village Discount Outlet (Chicago IL)

Belts, Scarves, & Ties

Just do it. Get those silky smooth pocket squares, kerchiefs, and wrap-arounds. These make fantastic presents. Some stores have grab-bags/boxes full of scarves.

scarves thrift stores
(from: dressresponsiblysj.wordpress.com)

Again, didn’t buy these beauties. I realized that I only had green scarves/ties/belts and was too embarrassed to put a collection of 12 various green shades in one picture. But they usually range from $1.00- $3.00 for scarves and $0.50- $6.00 for ties/belts where I shop.

Hope this helps. Look good, stay cozy, give gifts, and pay your rent on time! Happy snappy thrifting!

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25

Nov

Lose the Tassels, Baby

Anonymous asked: Hi! I have a huge bag problem, and I believe there are many out there who do too! Its so hard to find a multifunctional bag that can looks great when I wanna look more femme, but not too caught-under-the-armpit in that overly girly way. Something for someone who lies somewhere in the middle :)

I totally know some people in the same place. Here are some ideas for mid-femme bags:

Camp Director Tote, Modcloth, functional mid-femme bag

Camp Director Tote, available at Modcloth for $54.99

functional mid-femme bag
Anna in Teal, available on Etsy for $45

functional mid-femme bag
Square Shape Leather Backpack - Tan Brown, available on Etsy for $150

functional mid-femme bag
Louche Denk Handbag, available at joythestore.com for $46.50

functional mid-femme bag
Farm Rucksack, available at Makr for $160

functional mid-femme bag
The weekender, available at Everlane for $95

functional mid-femme bag
Warehouse Color Block Satchel, available at ASOS for $63.32


functional mid-femme bag
Two tone canvas bag, available on Etsy for $39.00

Happy carrying!

- Sonia

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17

Nov

Queering Vintage Menswear

Lou’s maroon, light brown, evergreen, and gray color scheme evokes that vintage old movie feelin; but with a queer twist. It’s KINDA amazing. Whether she was playing dress-up or not, I approve.

Coat: Etsy
Hat: H&M
Bow tie: H&M
Shirt: Camaïeu
Sweater: Camaïeu
Pants: New Look
Shoes: She don’t remember
Cane: From her family

Lou’s Tumblr: books-and-boobs

25

Oct

Peter Pan Collars, I Love You!

The beauty of peter pan collars has been calling out to me since the beginning of my fashion obsession (c. 2011). In addition to its vintage goodness, it is very school girlish — two styles I can’t live without. Dresses with collars also have an androgynous edge that I just adore. 

I haven’t yet found any men’s shirts with peter pan collars. There are rounded collars which are also dazzling  as you can see in this Topman shirt  but they don’t lie flat on the shoulder in the same way. However, you can buy or make the collar separately (shown below) and add it to any outfit. I’d LOVE to see a more masculine or androgynous person get up on that. (Submit here!)

Until then, here are some of my favorite inspiration and buys for the femmes and femmewear admirers:

Christina Caradona, peter pan collar

Extra points for the sexiest hair ever. Navy Collar Shift Dress with Pearl Embellishment, available at Dahlia for $30.00, modeled by Christina Caradona. (Follow her blog, Trop Rouge.)

peter pan collar

(source: zitychoc.blogspot.com) Get yours at American Apparel

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(source: milkteeths.blogspot.comClothes thrifted. Can’t find blue gingham collar like that, but here is a Unionmade Crew Neck Sweater in Pink.

peter pan collar

Detachable Peter Pan Collar in grey, available at Luulla for $30. Similar designs available on Etsy.

peter pan collar dress

Oh, and those socks… and Dr. Martens… and glasses…

Ebba Zingmark, modeling the Navy Skater Dress With Collar, available at Wandering Minds for $68.34. (source: lookbook.nu)

peter pan collar teal dress

Green peter pan collar dress, available at Dorothy Perkins for $35.00. And by green, they mean teal.

peter pan collar lace dress

Gosh darn. Wouldn’t this make such a good bridesqueer dress? Feeding the Doves Dress, available at Modcloth for $69.99

peter pan collar yellow top

Simple Cut Peter Pan Collar Top in Neon by Chic+, available at chicwish.com for $43.90
This site is so much like Modcloth! Kitschy titles, vintage fashion by indie designers, photos on mannequins, and CUTE CLOTHES in the upwardly affordable range.

peter pan collar polka-dot dress

Put a Swing on It Dress, available at Modcloth for $114.99

15

Oct

Ada from Imaginary Fashion Bloggers

An incredible artist named Alice wrote to me with an unusual and creative submission. I’m rather blown away. She made up some characters that she draws in actual clothes she’s been coveting/ checking out. One of her characters, named Ada, is into a lot of menswear and gender-nonconforming styles. She said she takes a lot of inspiration from Qwear for Ada’s outfits. I think this is such a beautiful way to explore fashion and gender without spending any money. Imagine if you could draw yourself in the clothes you wanted to wear, or if you could draw the haircut you’d be dreaming of before going for the plunge.

Sweater: pineBrook Vintage on Etsy
Shorts: Chance corduroy beach short
Sneakers: Vans Slip-On Lo Pro
Cap: Dodgers at shop.mlb.com

Tank: Hanes
Pants: MiH “Breathless” in Cement Velvet
Suspenders: Topman Grey Plain Braces
Shoes: Converse

Tee: VonlenskaVintage on Etsy
Jeans: MiH
Sneakers: Levi’s

Shirt: Equipment
Jeans: Romeo & Juliet
Blazer: Theory
Shoes: Converse

03

Oct

Anonymous asked: Okay, so, here goes: I am a "femme" lesbian, always have been, but I'm so tired of being misread as straight. I do want to look "more gay," but when I try, I kind of just end up looking...ridiculous - probably because I am very petite but with a relatively large chest and butt. Ugh. What are some women's stores where I can find edgy/"gay" clothes? Anything besides Urban Outfitters?

A.D. says: Sometimes, people with penises misread me as ‘straight’ (? this is weird…) because I have long hair, so I understand your frustration that you feel not-visible/not being read as a gay-mo. One sure-fire way to make sure others know you’re a big ‘mo (aka homo) is the rainbow. Wear a rainbow pin or bracelet. Other ways are “gay” shirts. 

As far as stores, I buy everything at thrift stores/free stores/clothing swaps because I can afford the clothes AND I’m not actively participating in the traditional clothing economy, which relies on the exploitation of children and women internationally. I would suggest starting at those stores… Other than that, “gay” fashion is so geographically-specific. I like H&MJ.Crew, ASOS, TopShop, ModCloth, Etsy, etc. Good luck!

25

Jul

All of the Bow Ties

Those things that we spend 50% of our time wearing and the other 50% drooling over. Might be time to pick up a few more for ourselves or our sweethearts?

Nautical Navy Stripe Bow Tie, available at High Cotton for $45



A sexy gent modeling what could be your very own Topman black bow tie for $28. (source: chicmen.tumblr.com)

Orange Gingham Bow Tie, available on Etsy for $44



Classic Navy & Pink Chambray Bow Tie, available at General Knot for $68



Plaid Bow Tie by Pierrepont Hicks, available in green and blue for $62

Closed Canvas Bow Tie, available at Luisaviaroma for 28.93€



Chambray Floral Self Bow Tie, available at Topman for $28

Indian Madras Bow Tie, available at J Press for $34.50



Forage bow tie, available at Petaluma Supply Co. for $68


For bow tie tying instructions, check out my post on Equally Wed: How to Tie a Bow Tie [VIDEO]

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