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23

Mar

twohearts-theyrebeating asked: Hi there. I do have a quick question! I'm about 5'4 and a heavier build. But I wish that didnt stop me from being able to wear the clothes I love (not skinny, but straight cut jeans. The supra skatish obey type of person). Any idea where I may find jeans that would fit me pretty well? Thanks!

I asked two experts!

Blake says: I love Old Navy Sweetheart Skinny Jeans. They’re only $30 (they go on sale for $19 fairly frequently) and they come in short. After a couple of wears they’ll be straight and not skinny. However, if you want them to be straight on the first wear, buy a size up. If short is too long, you can cuff them or get them hemmed (get them hemmed if they’re more than 3 inches too long). 

Courtney says: Levi’s men’s taper fit (508) and straight (501) jeans cuts are also classic jeans— my 501s look straight and are a bit loose on me. They have pretty frequent sales online and they come in tons of sizes and washes!  

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16

Mar

Wildfang is Live!

And this queer says the hype matches the delivery! If you are already on their mailing list, you will be granted access immediately when you enter your email. Otherwise, you can get on the waiting list here: www.wildfang.com

They are curating a very artsy look; loosely fitting clothes, wild patterns, lots of black and white, some western influences. There are a wide range of prices, and some of their vintage pieces are one-of-a-kind and disappearing fast! Here are some of my favs:

wildfang jeans

Get Loose Jean, $148 

wildfang vest

The Velvet Shane Vest, $38

wildfang army bow tie

Salute the Suit Bow Tie, $68

wildfang boots

Pound The Pavement Boots, $240

wildfang flannet

Craftsman Flannel, $78

They also have some sweet articles on tomboy style! I’m so stoked, friends. I’ll keep you updated as the brand grows. Don’t know what Wildfang is? Catch up here. - Sonia

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08

Mar

Introduction to Raw Denim

By Guest Blogger, Liann

I think we all have some major struggs associated with finding the perfect pair of jeans. Typical women’s and men’s jeans never satisfied my needs. I didn’t like the thin material used with women’s jeans and they either accentuated my curves if I wore them above my hips, or displayed far too much backside if I sagged them. I also didn’t like the cut and style of typical “men’s” jeans: they were too baggy, had too much rise, and fit too tightly around my hips. And, no matter how I wore any of them, they never looked particularly clean-cut.

But a new-found love for jeans came back full throttle four years ago, when I permanently switched to wearing raw denim.

What is raw denim, you ask?

When you buy a pair of blue jeans, overwhelming chances are that they have already been treated in some way outside of the “cotton+indigo+weaving+sewing=jeans!” equation. Any type of fading, distressing, bleach spots, or frays are all purposely done by the producer to make them feel softer and look cool. Even stiff-feeling dark wash jeans have probably been hit with a resin coating to prevent color loss.

pre-distressed Levi's jeans

These jeans are the big kahuna when it comes to pre-distressing (from us.levi.com)

Raw denim (also sometimes called “dry denim”) does away with all of this. They generally have no stretch, feel as stiff as cardboard, and are a deep, near-black indigo when you first try them on (although they’ll bleed sky blue on everything). With raw denim, you’ll want your jeans to be anywhere from a bit tight to soul-constricting for the first few days. The differences in immediate comfort and freedom of movement between “jeggings” and non-stretch dry denim are very quickly apparent, but after a couple of weeks your jeans will begin to mold and fade perfectly to your body.

Since there’s no treatment to keep the indigo in the fabric, people generally avoid washing their jeans for as long as possible. A lot of people swear by not washing for 6+ months to develop a high-contrast fade, but that’s not really necessary. You shouldn’t wash them every day, but every 30 wears isn’t a problem either. I personally wear them until they start to reek, at which point I throw them in the bathtub with some detergent.

 worn raw denim

My own Gap Skinny Selvedge, left (4 days, 0 washes) and heavily patched APC New Cure, right (1+ year, 3 washes)

A lot of raw denim is also selvedge, meaning that it has a self-closing end on the outseam. Contrary to popular belief, selvedge edges (or lack thereof) don’t guarantee quality, but they do generally correlate with a higher quality final product because they are more expensive to produce. If you have jeans with a selvedge edge, it’s common practice to show them off by rolling up your jeans a bit.

Ellen Degeners Selvedge

Ellen DeGeneres showing off some selvedge on her 3Sixteen raw denim jeans

The quickest way to this dapper, androgynous look is probably APC. Lots of their fits are branded as unisex, which is virtually unheard of in the denim world and is proof of their ability to look fantastic on just about anyone.

If you’re looking for men’s raw denim that doesn’t accentuate curves while fitting well, look at the skinniest fits and lowest rises you can find. Also, you shouldn’t be concerned if your sizes are all over the place. When I was trying on two different Naked and Famous brand men’s jeans in the same size but different cuts, one was far too loose in the waistband but I couldn’t button up the other. This is just a side effect of not knowing exactly how, and where, they will sit on your body.

On that note, TRY THEM ON before you buy! I cannot emphasize this enough, especially for people with curves looking at men’s denim. Raw denim is finicky and expensive. I also recommend this for women’s raw denim, although Steven from Railcar Fine Goods helped me a lot in finding a well-fitting pair of Viper X001’s via e-mail. Also, don’t be scared if you have to make the jeans skinnier below the knees to achieve the perfect look – even “skinny” men’s denim doesn’t compare to the amount of tapering you are used to with women’s jeans. Denim Therapy offers this service for $40. As with most things, fit is most important.

Sartorialist raw denim

The Sartorialist himself admits that his he bought raw denim that is too tight to wear comfortably…. Don’t emulate! (from thesartorialist.com)

Zac Efron Raw Denim

Left, Zac Efron dressing down some well-worn APC’s (from upscalehype.com)

I know I’ve just made this seem like a lot of expensive work, but well-fitting raws will blow any jeans you currently own out of the water— I promise. Here are suggestions for skinny, low rise, and/or women-specific jeans. If you want an easier time with fitting, try the ones with some stretch:

Less Expensive (under $100):

Gap Skinny Selvedge
Uniqlo Slim Selvedge
Unbranded Skinny Selvedge
Levi’s Shrink to Fit

Expensive ($100-$201):

Naked and Famous Weird Guys/Skinny Guys
APC Hipster/Petit Standard/New Cure
Railcar Fine Goods Viper
3Sixteen Slim Tapered Fit

Really Expensive (you don’t want to know):

Samurai Geisha
Dior Homme Raw
Skull Jeans Linda
Pure Blue Japan Women’s Slim
The Flat Head Balder
Real Blue Japan Slim Tapered

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01

Mar

A Femme’s Search For Casual Chic

By Guest Blogger, Anita Dolce Vita

In my home town of Albuquerque, NM, people don’t think twice about throwing on a pair of sweatpants and an old T-shirt for brunch. When I moved to Manhattan, my New York City friends were mortified when I tried to pull off sweatpants in a restaurant. Moving to a fashion forward city quickly revealed a huge weakness in my queer femme style: I have no functional, casual, cool outfits.

I mean, I have formal covered. My closet is filled with a ton of glittery shoes and bejeweled cocktail dresses that are appropriate for a variety of special events.

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My obsession: shiny shoes. Oh…DEER! Stiletto (left) and Vince Camuto Marcin Bootie (right)

I also have that undergraduate-just-rolled-out-of-bed look perfected. But, I have nothing “in between.”

And, why would I? In Albuquerque — at least when I lived there in the 90s — you either dressed up for formals or threw on a beat up pair of jeans to hang out at Applebee’s. (I certainly wouldn’t wear the above pictured shoes to an Applebee’s!) There weren’t a whole lotta other activities that called for casual chic attire. In fact, the last time I visited home, I was the most dressed-up person at our only gay bar and all I wanted to do was change into a fleece pullover so I could stop listening to my friends call me “bougie.” But, especially during the years when I was in college, wearing an outfit like this to the lesbian coffee shop or Coronado mall food court would have only invited awkward stares and judgment (even if it was self-judgment for feeling out of place):

image(from thelovehanger.com)

But, now I live in NYC, where there are a ton of activities (lounges, rooftop parties, gallery hopping, brunches, queer events, etc.) that call for this “in between” look that I just can’t seem to achieve. This is the closest I’ve gotten:

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While the outfit works for gallery openings and people watching at lounges, the boots do not lend well to walking more than 15 or so blocks in the city. Urbanites know the importance of a good walking shoe. So, I have some work to do in the fashionable-but-functional shoe department and I most definitely need more than one casual chic outfit.

I’ve found a few outfits on Pinterest that I might be able to pull off. I’m going to take these images shopping with me and use them as inspiration. My goal will be to stay focused on the mission of getting those “in between” ensembles and staying away from disco dresses and metallic stilettos. I’ll keep you posted about the results. Until then…

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(from abeautifulmess.typepad.com)

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(from blissfull—thinking.tumblr.com)

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(from loveandfro.wordpress.com)

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(from thestylehut.tumblr.com)

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(from stylistsdiary.blogspot.com)

Anita Dolce Vita is the Managing Editor at dapperQ

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13

Jan

Anonymous asked: I bought two pairs of jeans, a straight fit and a boyfriend fit. I've been wondering about different ways to wear both pairs. I've looked online for some inspiration but a lot of sites have said to feminize your other accessories. I identify as more butch/ androgynous, do you have any tips of what to wear with these jeans? I've never worn boyfriend jeans before, and don't want to look too slouchy, just well put together.

A.D. says: JEANS ARE, LIKE, THE PEANUT BUTTER OF CLOTHES; THEY GO WITH ANYTHING.
except bathing suits.
and even then you can wear denim jorts. I love summer and legs. Allllright, I’m done.

Real talk: I know what you mean; all the websites say accessorize with a neon pink cardigan with gold buttons, but I say, butch up a pair of jeans! Wear a collared shirt with a tie or bow tie or sweater or vest. If it’s cold, heck, throw on a leather jacket or blazer. If your wrists feel cold, grab a leather band (or fake leather band, because animals are our friends and killing them for an accessory is really silly).

With jeans, shoes define the outfit; a nice pair of dress shoes says, “Look, I’m a grown-ass adult.” A falling-apart pair of Converses say, “I’m not an adult, okay?! I just want to wear sneakers.” So, if you want to look well-put together, I suggest wearing a collared shirt with a sweater, with (somewhat, doesn’t have to be exact) matching belt and shoes. It’s easy and comfortable, and definitely not feminized.

For more visual inspiration, here are some non-feminine jean wearing submissions (warning: Hot Queers): Ashley + Tie AchievedBlake’s Thrifting SuccessMainstream Street SmartMen’s Vest TrickWhat Suede Says

10

Jan

No-Belt Swag

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Shirt: River Island
Tie: Burton 
Jeans: H&M

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09

Jan

Bass Loafers, Polo Ralph Lauren + Adorable Queer

lesbian plaid fashion

lesbian casual styles

Plaid shirt: Polo, bought at Macy’s
Jeans: American Eagle
Gray Sweater: Merona/Target, Thrifted
Loafers: Bass, Thrfited

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24

Dec

Pants: What Can You Fix With Tailoring?

We got a few more pant fit questions following Courtney’s advice on Combating Waist/Hip Ratio Issues in Men’s Pants. This time I turned it over to Blake. Happy holidaze! - Sonia

Anonymous asked: Is it ever a good idea to buy pants that are too big in the waist? I’m curvy with wide hips and big thighs, so a lot of pants (in the men’s as well as the women’s section) that fit me well in the leg are too big in the waist, especially since I prefer my pants to be looser in the leg rather than skinny. Belts are always an option, but in one case a pair of pants I otherwise loved was way too big in the waist. Can tailoring fix this, or have I been looking for pants in the wrong places?

Blake says: It really depends on the pair of pants. You don’t want your pants to be “baggy” in the crotch area (I find that this is more of a problem with men’s pants). If there isn’t too much extra fabric below the waist, everything else can be tailored. Any tailor can hem pants or take the waist in.

I, too, like my pants to be more baggy. I achieve this by buying a size up and wearing a belt. Belts not only keep me from flashing everyone, but they are also a great way to add an extra dimension to your outfit (a pop of color, texture, etc.). 

lesbian + plus size

(^ Blake in the most amazing pants everrr! from queerplusfashion.tumblr.com) 

All of my jeans are Old Navy’s Sweetheart Skinnys. The legs don’t hug me too tight, but they’re fitted. The quality isn’t the greatest, but they are affordable and fit me well. My khakis are Tommy Hilfiger chinos that I got tapered and hemmed. Excellent quality and fit, a bit pricy. At the end of the day, shop around to find the pair of pants that work best for you. They are out there.

Anonymous asked: So I know for shirts and blazers and things, you really want to make sure that the shoulders fit you. What would be the equivalent for pants? I mean hems would be pretty easy, but would it be more problematic to have a saggy butt or too wide waist or what?

Blake says: Tailoring can essentially fit any pants that are too big perfectly to your frame. If they are too tight, tailors can’t take or add fabric to the butt area. Likewise, too much or too little fabric below the belt can’t really be altered. Besides that, tailors can do just about anything. I’ve gotten pants tapered (see Pants: Creating a Slim Look in a Plus Size!), hemmed, and gotten the waist taken in. If in doubt, just ask your tailor. They know much more about clothes than me! Looking for a queer friendly tailor in your city? Ask the forum!

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27

Nov

Skinny Skater Style Jeans For Small Waists

Anonymous asked: Okay I’m a 5’ 3” 110 pound lesbian and I wear a 24 in girls pants, I’m tired of wearing womens jeans all the time, but that’s all that looks good on me. Mens pants never fit me because I’m too small but boys pants are either too baggy or too short. Do you have any suggestions? I’m looking for a nice skinny fit but still a little baggy with skater style

Courtney says: Pacsun and American Eagle both go down to 26 in the waist for their men’s pants; and while a 26 is not a 24, this might leave the right amount of room for sagging in the aforementioned skater style. I personally have found that my 28x30 American Eagle slims fit me the same in the waist as my 30x30 Dillon Skinnies from Pacsun, so Pacsun’s sizing may even go down smaller than they are labelled. Levi’s also get very skinny but their men’s pants only go down to 27 in the waist. However, Levi’s also has lots of variety in their pant styles for boys, which may be able to solve this dilemma for you. (Sonia adds: Ashley also recommends Levi’s boys — she is wearing them in this post. With a 29/30 waist, she says they are a little small on her. So they might be perfect for you.)

androgynous jeans
Skinny Jeans in Berry, currently on sale for $44.99 at American Eagle

androgynous jeans
Drakes Skinniest Layered Blue Jeans, $49.50 at Pacsun (2 for $69)

Levi’s currently has a sale on their website for 25% off and free shipping! GO BUY SOME JEANS, FRIENDS!

androgynous jeans
Levi’s Boys 510 Super Skinnies, on sale for $34

26

Nov

Anonymous asked: I have a question for you! I like to wear more masculine/adrogynous clothing and I've just recently started to buy men's jeans and they fit everywhere but the crotch area, it seems a little saggy. Is that normal? it's not extremely noticeable but I get insecure about it, is it because the jeans really don't fit properly? Is there a way to make them fit better?

I just learned from my friend that some tailors actually ask their clients how they like to “hang” so that they can design pants around the shape of their junk. Sooo yes, it is normal for there to be extra space when you don’t have one of them things. Some folks like to pack to make the fit look more natural. But that’s completely personal.

Generally speaking, skinny-fit jeans are going to have less room in the crotch. And, as A.D. pointed out, men’s jeans are designed to sit lower on the hips. Experimenting where you let them fall might help with the noticibility of the extra space. 

Even if you can’t get rid of that space, don’t be insecure! (Bam, did I make it better?) If the jeans fit in every other way, that is a huge accomplishment. I bet they look awesome on you. So just rock ‘em, and don’t worry about it. A little crotch room never hurt anyone.

For a bunch of Qwear reader recommend jean brands, check out this post! Guy’s Pants and Fit

- Sonia

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