Anonymous asked: How would you dress (as a soft butch) for an interview as a sales associate at, say, Macy's?
I’d dress professionally, but in way that makes you feel the most confident. Because that will always show through in an interview. I checked out what Macy’s asks for interview attire, and all it says is “Applicants should dress professionally yet comfortably” (clicky). Their dress code for the sales associates (available here) is essentially all black. So if you have all black, you may as well dress to impress in the dress code for the position. Otherwise, just be your sweet self.
If I were you, I’d do black chinos, a button-up; and maybe a black tie, vest, or blazer. Similar to what A.D. did here.
Oh, and don’t forget to do some ironing.
Anonymous asked: It’s getting cold, so I was wondering what kinds of masculine, stylish winter jackets y’all would suggest? What do I look for in style and fit? Especially for people who are super-petite—I want to be warm, but I also want to be handsome and not look like my winter coat is eating me!
Courtney, Our new dashing petite style consultant, says:
When you’re petite and looking for a coat, fit is a super important aspect to look out for. You want to make sure the style of coat you’re wearing is sized properly, particularly in relation to waist placement and length. So it’s usually best to try things on and check the fit before you commit to a coat; especially since quality coats are usually on the expensive side. Shorter styles that are meant to end at the hip or mid-thigh are generally safer. Peacoats, because they are a shorter cut style, are good for achieving that high class wool overcoat look without feeling like you’re drowning.
American Eagle coats are pretty good quality, and the men’s sizes go all the way down to extra small. I have a friend with a peacoat from there that she is very happy with.
Land’s End is, of course, known for their quality outerwear. Their Wool Commuter Parka in Current coat comes in a lovely currant color, as well as being, again, cut shorter to accommodate for the shorties.
H&M usually cuts things slimmer, so it’s easier to find styles that work with a smaller figure. It can be somewhat hit or miss, however, so trying things on helps a lot. (Sonia adds: for someone who has been known to complain about the quality of H&M’s clothes, I love their jackets. This is the third winter I’ve worn a puffy coat I bought from them for $50, and it keeps me real warm. It also makes me look muscular.)
This Ralph Lauren Overcoat, on sale for $129.99 at Macy’s is cut shorter and also comes in short as well as regular. Lots of big department store brands offer short sizes in coats.
We also have an earlier post on winter coats with several styles that would work excellently on petite people!
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Someone left this H&M jacket in my cousin’s store a few years ago, and it’s become my fall wardrobe staple. Even though it’s a women’s jacket and 2 sizes bigger than I usually take, it fits really well and gives me an androgynous shape. Every season, H&M comes up with variations on this style. The buttons are looking pretty flimsy on their jackets days, but you can always replace them.
Also, on the subject on spending more to last longer, the $40 splurge on the Ralph Lauren boy’s sweater 2 years ago is proving very worth it. I still love the crew neck design and it is way more durable than the sweaters I got for less, which tend to stretch out and do weird things. My next culprit may just have to be one of their cable knits.
Anonymous asked: I recently just bought a dark blue jumper with brown elbow patches from topman, but I have no idea what to wear it with! Any chance you have any ideas for a cute but suave outfit for the jumper to impress my lady with?
This is SUCH A NICE SWEATER:
Navy Elbow Patch Jumper, available at Topman for $72
Navy goes with many things. Here is an easy outfit you can do that will most certainly impress your lady:
Brown slim belt, available at Red Herring for $28
Broken-in Chino in Urban Slim Fit, available at J.Crew for $75
This watch brand is dope. You can customize the strap and face color. Available at beoptimisticandthankful.com for $85
Clark Desert Boots, available at Orvis for $100
Lots of people have been asking about winter coats, and after much browsing, I’m ready to deliver my top picks. My favorite thing about winter coats is it that they will so easily sculpt your body into the shape you’re looking for; like if you want a more androgynous shape, or wider shoulders. Or in my case, big guns.
Guess Asymmetrical Collar Bouclé Coat, available at Nordstrom for $149.90
Puffa Jacket With Front Pockets, available at ASOS for $140.70
Single Breast Coat available at Tule for $49.00
Guess Jeans Jacket, Hooded Chromatic Puffer Jacket, available at Macy’s for $148.00
Anonymous asked: Hi! I've just moved to Boston and was wondering if you (or anyone else) might know where I can find cheap boyish clothes to buy. I'm pretty short and a pear shape so I don't know where to even start looking (not to mention how expensive Boston is!). Also, I'm looking for vests in particular. Your blog is really amazing and has already helped me figure out my style! I can't wait to buy the clothes and actually look "dapper"! Haha! Thank you! =)
Welcome! Boston actually has a lot of amazing finds if you know where to go. Buffalo Exchange, Goodwill, and Boomerangs are my favorite thrift stores. I’ve gotten so many great things at Goodwill…. beautiful boys’ shirts for 5$ each. Goodwill will have vests too. Department stores are my next haven for cheap clothes. Macy’s, Lord & Taylor, Marshalls, Filenes, etc. They have several locations, but you can hit a lot of good ones at Downtown Crossing and Boylston St. And if you are looking for boy clothes, the H&M at Downtown Crossing has a kids section with some amazing stuff for really cheap (and the added benefit of all-gender dressing room.) I also love the CambridgeSide Galleria. My favorite affordable stores there are Old Navy, Macy’s, American Eagle, Express, and Gap. If you catch the sales at Express and Gap you can get amazing finds.
As you can see, I’ve done a lot of shopping here. Any other Boston favorites?
Anonymous asked: Do you know if there's such a thing as an approximate size conversion chart between women's clothing sizes and men's/boys' clothing sizes? I'm most interested in shirt sizes but ones for other kinds of clothing could be useful as well.
Here are charts with all the measurements for men’s, women’s, and children’s clothing sizes: http://www.nationalworkwear.com/size_conversion_chart.php
For boys’ clothing though, I find that the range is quite wide. For example, I take a M in Old Navy Boys shirts, XL in American Eagle Boys shirts, L or XL in Macy’s Boys shirts (8-20 section), and 13-14 in H&M Boy’s shirts (The second to largest size).
In general I find that there is no easy way to determine what size you will be without trying things on. The size and fit varies so much from brand to brand that you’ll have to try it on in order to see how the fit works. Also, expect that you may need tailoring.
More thoughts? Helpful resources I don’t know about? Comment!
We’ve been getting so many questions about men’s Tanks; where to get them; how to deal with large armholes; what to do if people are making fun of you for being a virgin (wait… that’s not about fashion. Why is it in my inbox?)
Ashley rocking the tank undershirt (link)
Yes, men don’t mind exposing their boobs, so most of their tanks have larger armholes. The solution: Hanes or Fruit of the Loom undershirts. Available on Amazon. Boy’s tanks however, tend not to have large armholes… I don’t know why. So I like to wear them.
Here are some of my favorite tanks to help get you beat the heat:
AMBSN Clothing Popsicle Tank Top, available at Trucker Deluxe for $39.99
Company 81 Men’s Stripe Tank Top, available at Amazon for $24
Topman has a ton of tanks tops for all the small queers. Their smallest size XXS is even too small for me. Yellow Winner Vest, available at Topman for $32.
Tank with Wide Fluro Stripe, available at ASOS for $19.88. (Free shipping both ways in the US + 10% off. Code: 10SALE)
Fly Society Stewardess Tank, available at PacSun for $24. (10% off $100 plus free shipping. Coupon code: PACSUN10)
Fine Jersey Unisex Tank Top, available at American Apparel for $17
Obey Font Heather Yellow Tank Top, available at Zumiez for $29.95
Oh, and tell your friends that “virgin” is a heterosexist concept and it’s your body and you do what you want.
Anonymous asked: hey i'm in the market for some tank tops. any recommendations?
The list has grown since I last posted about tanks:
Any other recommendations?