I finally got my camera back that I left at my friend’s house! So now I can show you all the amazing queer halloween costumes I witnessed. A little late, but hey. Perhaps a little inspiration for next year? The Friday night event was LGBTQ ice skating; so that explains the skates.

Every queer is a superhero in my book

Lexi as a flower!!

Cuteness. Photo cred David Booth

Me as Hugo!

Sam Shakusky from Moonrise Kingdom. I loved this costume… and the movie.

Rachel Maddow. Elizabeth REALLY needs to dress like this all the time.

Sarah Champagne as a post apocalyptic queer… with I forget what Aziz was. Abe Lincoln?

Animal fur will keep us warm in the future.

Pregnant Beyonce. Photo cred David Booth

Homemade blood and ribs…. so impressive.

Peter pan, from the man whose entire wardrobe is green.

I don’t know what this one was going as… other than sexy. So naturally I needed to be in the picture.

Hannah Hart and Lumberjacks can look strinkingly similar

Anonymous asked: This isn't exactly a fashion question, but here it goes. I'm in college and have a good friend who lives across the hall from me. She knows I'm gay and isn't bothered by it (she's straight) but she is constantly trying to get me to dress more girly and get a more feminine haircut. I've told her that I'm more comfortable in men's clothes but she doesn't seem to get it. Is there anything I can say/do that will help get my point across?

This is actually a really good question. Before I was as confident about my gender presentation and my fashion was a bit more questionable, lots of straight friends tried to offer me “fashion advice” — which in their mind meant more feminine clothes. Playing Sonia-Makeover was not a rare suggestion. They didn’t mean to make me uncomfortable, and were just trying to help. I think they also didn’t necessarily recognize what was pushing me out of my comfort zone (good) and what was just making me plain uncomfortable (bad.)

Since there is such little positive representation of queer and gender non-conforming folks, people often think that dressing well for female assigned folks means dressing feminine. You can start by pointing out that Ellen DeGeneres and Rachel Maddow are the most sexy as well as gender nonconforming! Maybe you can think of mutual friends or other people you see on campus who are totally hott in a non feminine way, or other celebrities you both like. And just continue to explain what types of clothes you want to wear so that you can direct her help to the right places. “I’m not interested in wearing dresses,  but I’d totally love your suggestion on which of these bow ties would go with this shirt.” 

It’s not always the best feeling to have someone pressuring you to wear things you don’t feel comfortable in… a lot of the advice thrown at me was unwarranted. If she ever makes you uncomfortable, you could tell her that too. I hope that you can have some great talks with her and become better friends as a result! 

Also, queer friends are the best. You can never have too many of them.