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Author | Guest Blogger Abby Waller
Every morning my alarm goes off and I drag myself out of bed. After showering off the sleep and conditioning my unruly curls, I stand in front of my opened closet with a furrowed brow.
Staring back at me is a fairly ample selection of various clothing items. I could have double the wardrobe. I could have your wardrobe – I could have a mixture of Ryan Gosling, Rachel Maddow, and Christina Hendrick’s wardrobes, and beyond the clothing from one specific individual not fitting in a very specific region – I’d still furrow my brow because I’m just so damned fickle when it comes to fashion.
But when I get it right – and sometimes damn do I ever – I get it so, so right.
It’s always a bit of a challenge to find the perfect outfit because I struggle a little with the whole femme/butch scale. Throughout my twenties I pretty much covered the ends of the spectrum, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to play with the scale a bit more. Richmond, Virginia is a small town and a lot of the lesbian crowd is one or the other: butch or femme. To this day, I battle with where I feel I’m supposed to fit on the spectrum.
I want to look sexy, feminine, and dapper. This is my mission, and I’m going to get there.
My best days are when I’m inspired by a certain movie, or even just a certain feeling. We Richmonders are lucky enough to have one hell of a autumn season. So lately just the crisp and clear fall weather has been inspiring a lot of my outfit choices. And there is nothing like donning a dapper ensemble to take an afternoon stroll through the park and feel the crunch of fallen leaves under your feet while holding the hand of your flush-faced lady.
Here’s how I do it:
1: Jeans. I’ve always had one pair of jeans – that, if it were socially acceptable, I’d wear every day. Perhaps you’ve had a similar experience? They’re our “hot jeans.” They fit perfectly, they’re comfortable, and they’re oh so versatile.
2. A super cute button up: stripes, plaid, or plain. Put that sucker on & button it up. I’m a big fan of color, and an even bigger fan of patterns. Which brings me to…
3: Accessories. Throw on a tie or scarf to go with that adorable button-up. And please mix up your patterns! Plaid shirt? Striped tie! Striped shirt? Paisley scarf! I’m also a huge fan of vests. Any kind of vest. Gimme.
Other great accessories I often have lovers trysts with: bracelets, earrings, long necklaces, and hats to name a few.
4: Blazer, pea coat, or leather/vegan leather jacket. Layering accomplishes two things; it keeps you warm and it allows you to show off more of your fashion wit. So layer on your dashing, chic duds.
5: Heels. A good pair of heels can be worn all night. It’s true, I promise.
6: Bright. Fucking. Red. Lipstick. Oh hell yes, so hot.
And that’s really it. If I just let my inhibitions go a little and have fun; I’ll accomplish my mission to find the perfect outfit and look exactly how I want to look…like me.
Brynna asked: “Love the blog! I have a question about blazers though. I want one so badly, since I think it is the thing to tie a lot of items in my wardrobe together, and to easily look polished. However, this seems to be the worst item of clothing for me to find. In the women’s section, they end up being enormous in the arms and chest if I’m able to button them closed, and the men’s section leave me drowning in fabric. Where should I look, and how crazy is it to have a blazer altered? Thanks”
Blake says: It may sound crazy, but I swear by shopping for blazers in thrift stores. Thrifting is like being in 50 stores at once, and if, like me, you still haven’t found the blazer of your choice in a retail store, it’s definitely the way to go. In thrift stores you can easily shop for women’s and men’s blazers at the same time. You can also explore a variety of cuts, colors, and sizes all on the same rack. And it’s affordable — I’ve never spent more than $10 for a blazer (And never more than $50 after having it tailored.) You may need to be patient, as you never know what you’ll find in each trip. But if you keep at it, you’ll find something great.
Getting a blazer tailored is one of the best choices I’ve ever made for my wardrobe. In the past, I’ve had the shoulders of a blazer taken up. This is the most expensive alteration to make on a blazer (it cost me $30). You can also get a blazer taken in in the waist. As with any alteration, a tailor cannot add fabric where there is none. This video from Put This On demonstrates what to look for in fit for blazers. DapperQ also put together some helpful fit tips in this post. After the tailoring, you may also want to get it dry cleaned to get it smelling brand new again.
So, If it’s in your budget, I highly suggest investing in at least one tailored blazer. After all, a tailored blazer is tied with Beyonce’s halftime show for the 8th wonder of the world.
Good luck, and I hope you will let us know how it works out!